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'TOUCHY FEELY' MATTERS
Are you more 'touchy-feely'
With others, than with your spouse?
They caught you doing it. Again.
And, then, the next day, they caught you doing it with someone else. Perhaps with multiple others.
And, they were resentful. Yet, if they were to tell you how they were hurt by it, you would probably laugh at them. Or, think less of them. At least, that's what they believe would happen.
So, now, what?
Uh-oh. I forgot to describe what was going on. Well, a complaint that I have heard all too often, from both sexes, is that their spouse was 'touchy feely' with someone else of the opposite sex.
Now, the odds are that everything was perfectly 'innocent'. You simply gave that neighbor a hug and a peck for helping with some errand or problem around the house. And, the market boy was carrying your bags for you. Or, the secretary made the extra effort to swing by your home to drop off the report that you needed to work on, tonight. Or...
The problem, you see, is that your spouse is jealous. Not 'green-eyed monster' jealous. Not 'I'm afraid that they are having an affair' jealous. - No, simply the jealousy that comes from them being starved for physical affection from you. And, watching you be even remotely affectionate with someone else of the opposite sex drives them crazy. - Because it sends the message that
you are in fact capable and willing to show physical affection. Simply, not with them.
And, don't be misled by stereotypes. Men and women, alike, often crave this type of affection. And, if your sex lives have not been very active or fulfilling, lately, then minor acts of affection carry more weight than they normally would, or deserve to have.
So, what's the solution? Well, making fun of your spouse is not one of them. And, stopping the acts of touching in a friendly/ appreciative manner is not one, either.
The key here is to make the minor effort to be 'touchy feely' with your loved one. As simple as that. And, there is a terrific side benefit to be gained by doing this. When someone is touched in a loving way by someone they care deeply about, it can change that person's outlook on the relationship and the rest of their day. So that they will probably be less stressed with others, and yourself. They will be more likely to accommodate your wishes.
Touch has an amazing power. Use it! And, watch the results!
'Nuff said!
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